Out of all the memories in my head from buying gifts for my mom for Mother's Day, this one stands out to me the most. My Dad picked us from school, and took us to pick out something for my mom from a stand by the church in the center of town. I picked a musical card with flowers inside, and presented it to my mom with so much pride and joy. My mom accepted it and then said to my Dad, while we were still in the room "I would have rather have you give me the money you spent on those gifts, I don't need cards and flowers, but we do need diapers for the babies." I think since that year, I have not given my mom another card for any other holiday.
All my life, my Mom has taught us that celebrations, holidays and gifts are not important to her. That she would rather have us all get along, do what she says and take care of each other. Those all sound pretty simple, but are in reality, very challenging for 6 siblings to comply. Even as we are all adults.
I learned to be this way too, and get very anxious when anybody wants to celebrate my birthday, give me cards of presents. I would prefer that the day goes unnoticed and quiet. I feel the same about Mother's day.
For Mother's day I ask for the same thing, for everybody around me to act like they don't feel forced to celebrate me. I'm not trying to say that Mothers are not important, and should not be valued; but that Mothers need to be adored 365 days a year, not just one day.
I was on the phone with my sister on Tuesday, and we talked about plans for eating on Mother's day. She suggested making Enchiladas, which everybody at home loves, but only Mom and I can make. "We can't have you both making us food for Your DAY!". I laugh and say "But that is what we both love to do, to take care of all of you! As long as you all help and don't get into any fights." She agreed to help and have my brothers and sister help.
This year for Mothers day, I'm only asking for everybody to get along and for my son to do what I ask him to do, because that is really all I want for Mothers Day.... and to run a half marathon.
Happy Mother's day!